Valerie is a 42-year-old, single, Reformed Christian lady who lives in Baltimore. She doesn't remember a time
before she knew and loved Jesus, but she does remember accepting John Calvin into her heart in March of 2000.
Valerie is a member of Christ Reformed Evangelical Church in Annapolis.
Though her career aspiration is to be a housewife, Valerie has not yet found anyone suitable who wishes to hire
her for employment in that field (or, more properly, anyone suitable has not found her), so in the meantime she
earns her daily bread working in communications -- editing, writing, print design and website management.
On December 11, 2007 9:32 PMAnonymouswrote... Well....how would you feel to see the same thing on a man's car with the word "woman" inserted? ~eleanor
On December 11, 2007 9:38 PMValerie (Kyriosity)wrote... Well, if Flannery O'Connor had written "A Good Woman Is Hard to Find" (which really would have been as apt a title for it), and I saw a guy with that bumper sticker, I'd think it was pretty stinkin' hilarious.
On December 11, 2007 11:16 PMDominion Familywrote... Valerie, We were traveling in the depths of south GA in August. It was my 19yos and a friend from NSA named Michelle, my daughter and myself. It was such a lonely stretch of road that Michelle and I started talking about AGMIHTF. We were laughing and teasing the non-Flannery readers in the car when our tire blew out. Then this scraggly guy pulled over to help us and Michelle and I were really freaking out. She even picked up the car jack when he walked over. He ended up being very helpful and sent us to his dad's garage even farther out in the country which gave us a few more weird moments but our story had a much happier ending. We got a tire for $20.00 and convinced the rest of the travelers that they needed to read AGMIHTF. :)
Tire: $20 Being in a live version of a Flannery story: Priceless
On December 12, 2007 8:47 AMpentamomwrote... Why would it take courage to put up a bumpersticker that only 1/10,000 of the people seeing it would get, and those people would just chuckle? The rest of the world would just think you're speaking a truism, and some would think you're a feminist, which takes no courage whatsoever. It's no slam on men in general to say that good ones (in some loose, theologically acceptable sense) aren't that common, any more than good women.
On December 12, 2007 9:20 AMpentamomwrote... BTW, Eleanor, your proposed bumpersticker is just a paraphrase of Proverbs 31:10, so I don't think I'd have a problem with it. ;-)
On December 12, 2007 11:28 AMAnonymouswrote... I don't get it. You must enjoy my ignorance because you keep me around. Or is it so you can have something else to laugh about? :) ARGH
On December 12, 2007 6:04 PMEleanorwrote... Well, Jane, that's true, I guess, but the context strikes me as a biot different. If I were in Valerie's shoes (a good woman if ever there was), I'd be irritated, and I would consider the guy to sport such a sticker a lazy oaf with an inflated self-image. But by the same token, if I were a decent, hard-working unmarried man who wasn't having much luck finding a girl to marry, and saw that one, I might feel the same way. It's one thing when God says it, and proceeds to describe the perfect woman. It's another when a fallible person says it and has the gall to put it on a bumper sticker to show how high a woman has to jump to satisfy him. But then, I'm perhaps too sensitive to the imagined feelings of others. ~eleanor
On December 12, 2007 6:11 PMValerie (Kyriosity)wrote... If it didn't have the Flannery reference, it might be offensive. Trouble is, most people won't get the Flannery reference, and will therefore find it offensive. I do wish the bottom line weren't in such small type. I'd redesign it:
FLANNERY SAID IT BEST: A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND!
But they didn't ask me. They seldom do. ;-)
And Eleanor, I've obviously got you fooled! :-P
On December 12, 2007 9:08 PMEleanorwrote... You haven't got me fooled any more than I have you fooled, You miserable yet redeemed sinner who happens to be just as marriageable as anyone I know in the mirror.
On December 13, 2007 9:43 AMpentamomwrote... I see what you mean about context, Eleanor, which probably does matter here, but I have to quibble with one thing. Solomon WAS a fallible person. Yes, he was inspired when he said it, but he was still speaking as a fallible man. "We can't say that because we're fallible" also bothers me, because that implies we can't apply clear general statements from scripture because we're fallible. It's one thing to be hesitant about going around identifying whitewashed tombs because we're fallible, because that requires specific judgment that is usually beyond our ken. But this is a general statement, that whether you're fallible or not, is clearly declared to be true in scripture, and first written by a fallible man, albeit an inspired one. It's a good thing Solomon wasn't thinking, "I can't say that, I'm fallible!" ;-)
